Gift giving is not always an easy task and it seems very difficult to shop for the guy in your life. Understanding what type of relationship you’re in is the key to gift giving. Is it a new fling? Maybe you’ve been together for a few months or even a year or more. Either way, there are simple tips of advice to follow when searching for the perfect gift, no matter what the occasion.
For a Relationship That Has Just Started
You’ve been in a relationship for less than a month. You want a gift that shows that you’re enjoying the relationship so far, but nothing too serious, because that could send the wrong message.
Take him out to dinner at his favorite restaurant or go to a movie that he wants to see. Doing something together as a gift helps build a stronger foundation for your relationship. It’s not necessary to spend a lot of money in the beginning of a relationship.
For a Relationship That’s a Bit More Serious
You’ve been together for a few months. At this stage in the relationship, it would be appropriate to give something small, simple and thoughtful. It’s easier to find a gift at this point in the relationship because you’ve become closer and you’re more comfortable with each other.
Use his favorite hobby as a focus point for the gift. Maybe he collects vinyl records, so you can go to Barnes and Noble, a local music shop or purchase a few online. If he loves to read, buy him a new book from his favorite author. If he’s into sports, give him a new piece of equipment like a ball or bat. When you’re in a more series relationship, you’ll already know what your significant other likes and dislikes, making gift giving less of a guessing game. There’s no need to spend more than $50 on a gift. Twenty to thirty dollars is more appropriate.
For a Long-Term Relationship
At this point in the relationship things are going well and you two are definitely comfortable with one another. Make the gift a little more involved. The gift should be something that shows you’re invested in the relationship and pay attention to your boyfriend’s wants.
Combine dinner and a movie with a small gift as well. If you two are out shopping and he points out that he really likes a T-shirt, make a quiet note of it and return later to purchase the shirt. If his favorite band is coming to town, buy tickets to the concert and make a date night out of the event. Investing a little bit of money here is good, but don’t break the bank.
When is it Appropriate to Spend a lot of Money?
The seriousness of the relationship should determine when you drop a lot of money on a big gift. Anything over $150 probably isn’t appropriate unless you benefit from the gift as well. If you don’t feel comfortable giving something expensive, then chances are, it’s not the right time.
It’s important to know that even though a relationship is long-term, it doesn’t always mean you’re in a serious relationship. Even if you’ve been together for a year, that doesn’t mean you’re thinking about the next serious steps in a relationship – going to college together, taking a road trip together or marriage. Serious relationships are not defined based on the length of your relationship, but rather the level at which you two know each other. In a serious relationship, gift giving is based on an amount the two of you agree with based on your budget, aspirations and future plans.
If you’re invested in the relationship, let the gift you give be a reflection of your compassion, which will make the stressful process of gift giving more enjoyable. Pay attention to where you are in the relationship and ask yourself, “Is it appropriate to buy this when we’ve been dating for this long?” Note your boyfriend’s hobbies and interests. Keep in mind, not all gifts are tangible items. Sometimes spending time with someone becomes more valuable because creating memories can mean more than material items.