oNe. Which of the following would make you feel most loved by your significant other?
- A beautifully wrapped and heartfelt gift.
- Going out to dinner for a chance to talk and connect.
- Receiving a letter that expresses encouragement and words of appreciation.
- Cuddling, holding hands, affectionate kisses.
- Being served a home-cooked dinner.
twO. What are you most likely to do for your mom for Mother’s Day?
- Buy her a gift, something she’s been admiring for some time.
- Take her for a day at the park, just the two of you, to talk and relax together.
- Make her a poster listing everything you love about her.
- Give her a coupon book for free hugs, anytime.
- Spend the weekend cleaning the house and her car top to bottom.
tHree. How would you cheer up your best friend after a nasty break-up?
- Give her a piece of her favorite jewelry wrapped in fancy paper.
- Take her out to coffee and let her rant and rave about her ex.
- Leave a cute card in her locker with a poem you wrote exclaiming how wonderful she is.
- Give her a great big hug and offer her your stellar back-massaging services.
- Make her favorite dessert after giving her a manicure.
fOur. Your honors class is requiring you to do a community service project. What role is most appealing to you?
- Putting together Christmas care packages for needy families.
- Visiting the nursing home and spending time with the residents.
- Being a Big Sister to a younger girl and helping her see how beautiful she is.
- Volunteering at a daycare center holding and loving on the babies.
- Working at the food pantry taking inventory and restocking shelves.
fiVe. If you woke up one morning feeling terribly sick, how could your best girl friends make you feel better?
- Bringing over flowers and a teddy bear.
- Renting a movie and lying around with you.
- Making a giant “Get Well Soon” card and having all your friends write an encouraging note.
- Scratching your back, brushing and styling your hair, giving you a facial.
- Helping you finish your chores while you rest.
siX. What quality would make a guy most attractive to you?
- He buys his little sister the Barbie she’s been eyeing for months.
- In a bustling group setting, he takes time to have a genuine conversation with someone who’s hurting.
- Overhearing him tell his buddy how much his family means to him.
- He loves giving hugs to everyone, even people he doesn’t know very well.
- He spends his weekends picking up trash at the park.
sEven. You’re spending the weekend with your Grandma. Which activity do you most enjoy?
- When she surprised you at the mall by buying you a new CD of your choice.
- When she takes you to ice cream and you talk for an hour about old memories.
- When she asked you about boys and told you all the reasons he’d be lucky to have you.
- Sitting by the fire while she gives you a pedicure and foot massage.
- For dinner your Grandma cooks an elaborate meal and her famous apple cobbler.
Mostly As: Your love language type is Gifts. To you, gifts are physical, visible expressions of love. You feel loved when you’re given a gift as a demonstration of affection and you love people best by presenting them with presents that are meaningful. Significant gifts require thought, genuine care and special consideration for the other person. Be careful to: Make sure you’re not giving out of obligation or with the intention to manipulate a person to get what you want.
Mostly Bs: Your love language type is Quality Time. Spending intentional, meaningful time with a loved one is important to you. Someone giving their time to connect with you is precious and you show love to others by pursuing them to spend time with you and having the chance to relate more intimately. Be careful to: Not overwhelm your loved ones and push them to constantly spend meaningful time with you. Give others space when they may need it and don’t feel down if your loved ones need alone-time.
Mostly Cs: Your love language is Words of Affirmation. You feel most loved and wanted when someone speaks words of approval and affection to you. You express love to others with encouraging words and praise. Be careful to: Avoid saying words that you don’t mean. Be kind and gentle, but stay true to who you are and keep away from insincerity.
Mostly Ds: Your love language is Physical Touch. Hugs, kisses, back rubs, pats and physical closeness are signs of endearment to you, and you use these ways to reach out and build connections with others. Be careful to: Take into consideration others’ boundaries. Many people feel uncomfortable around extremely affectionate individuals, so make sure you keep in mind your loved ones’ levels of comfort.
Mostly Es: Your love language type is Acts of Service. When your friends and family help you in some way, you understand those actions as expressions of love. Devoting your time and energy to serving others is your way of conveying affection. Be careful to: Always give and act out of love and with a sincere heart. You should never serve someone else simply to gain favor or reverence.
No matter what love language describes you best, remember that not everyone will share that expression of love, and exercising all the love languages will help you show your loved ones how much they mean to you. Start viewing your friends through a new lens, trying to pinpoint their love language and expressing your gratitude for them in that way. Also, when you’re feeling unloved by someone you truly care about, think about how they treat you and keep in mind that they may understand love differently than you. If you’re feeling awkward utilizing a love language different from your own, remember that sometimes being uncomfortable promotes growth and someday you may need all five love languages to show those you care about just how much you love them.