Valentine’s Day is almost here! Roses are being sold at corners, chocolate bombards you at the store and dinner reservations are being made. Chances are, at this time of year you’re thinking about the love you have in your life, and for some of you, that may be your boyfriend. Romantic relationships can be an exciting aspect of your teenage years.
Especially around this time of year people love to circulate stories of married couples who were high school sweethearts and stood the test of time. While that is sweet and does happen, there are other lessons that you learn from having a boyfriend that are less long-term. Here are three things you can learn from being in a romantic relationship:
Being in a relationship teaches you healthy ways of communicating. Differences in opinion, misunderstandings and bad days are all bound to happen. Learning how to work through fights and hard times is pivotal to all relationships in your life. Romantic relationships also teach you what is kind, positive communication and what’s not. For instance, if you look at your phone and all of your texts, snapchats and Facetime calls are just your boyfriend, that’s not a good sign. On the other hand, if you look at your phone and the last time you heard from your boyfriend was a text five days ago, that’s not a good sign either. Relationships require effort, but it’s also important to give the other person space. Learning how to communicate is important in a relationship.
One of the most enticing and exciting aspects of a relationship is physical attraction. The fact that you’re attracted to someone, that he is attracted to you as well, and you can express that attraction is rightly exciting. However, there’s more to a relationship than just attraction. Really learning about that person and spending time with him teaches you to see past the physical exterior. Sometimes you sadly find out that while he’s really cute, he’s shallow and unkind. Sometimes you happily find that he is just as great on the inside as he looks on the outside.
Being in a romantic relationship requires a lot of attention. However, your friends, family and mentors require attention, and you don’t want to ditch them for your boyfriend. Making time for people and maintaining those connections is a skill you’ll always be utilizing later in life, so start practicing now.
There’s a lot to learn in a romantic relationship. They teach you to see beyond yourself, really learn about people, communication skills and much more. If you want to share what you have learned from your romantic relationship, tweet to us with your story! We would love to hear from you!